I was listening to a radio morning show, and I heard something that broke my heart. A lady contacted the radio show and told them that her husband cheated on her. She then said that she understood because she had let her self go (gained a bunch of weight). The morning show applauded her and said that when her husband married her she was more attractive and since that changed he should be able to be with someone that he was attracted to.
On the one hand, I applaud the woman for thinking about how she played a part in this situation. I do believe that we should work hard at meeting our spouses needs. Husbands need to romance their wives, wives need to call Victoria and get her secret from time to time, couples should care about their own health and physical appearance. Here's the deal...affairs happen because a need is not being met. A need that was met when the couple first started dating.
On the other hand when you get married it is for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, love handles and cankles (when the calf merges with the foot and thus there are no ankles). Our love for our spouse should not be based off of physical appearance alone. Marriage is a big deal and the commitment doesn't change!
What have you done this week to show your spouse love? Have you shown them unconditional love? Think about it, and then do something!
I always thought if a good marriage was based on the wife staying looking sharp, then the happiest marriages would be in Hollywood.
ReplyDeleteGood blog. Terry has a great comment there too. According to the morning shows thoughts the majority of the women in America have the "right" to cheat. I wonder if it had been a man calling in and saying the same thing, if they would have had the same response?
ReplyDelete"affairs happen because a need is not being met"
ReplyDeleteWhile in many cases it's true that a legitimate need is not being met...(I recommend "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Laura Schlessinger re this topic)
but it's also true that some people(sadly Christians) are narcistic and an affair is the perfect solution for that illegitimate need.
Great comments Terry! Thanks!
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