- 40 million Americans regularly visit porn websites.
- In the U.S. Internet porn makes 2.84 billion $'s. It makes 10 billion total.
- 25% of all Internet searches are for porn. That's 68 million in a day. On a side note if you blog add naked, sex, or porn into a title of your blog and watch your stats rise.
- There are 116,000 searches for child pornography every day.
- 20% of men admit to watching porn at work. I bet they don't work in a cubicle.
- The average age in which a guy first sees porn online is 11 years old. That's 5th grade.
- The most popular day to watch porn is on Sunday.
- The least popular day of the year to watch porn is Thanksgiving.
To like porn is unfair for your significant other. They can't live up to the images that you view. And I bet that you would hate it if they spent hours a day fantasizing about someone else. Fantasizing about someone who meets their needs, does whatever they want, and has bigger private parts then you.
Porn is easier to get to today then ever before. So what can we do? There are no easy answers and there are no quick fixes. In fact most people aren't willing to get crazy enough to beat this addiction. The following are some things that I know have worked...
- Be honest with someone. Having a person who you check in with is crucial to overcoming any addiction. I know a guy who overcame a porn addiction and if he looks at porn he has to write his accountability partner a $1,000 check.
- Never be alone. I have a friend and whenever his wife goes out of town he has a friend stay over at the house. He doesn't trust himself alone, and he's not willing to allow this addiction to win.
- Internet protection. XXX Church offers a free online accountability. You can set it up so a friend gets sent a copy of all the websites you look at online. I also have a friend that won't own a computer. He told me that you can't watch online porn if you don't have a computer. He was right.
- Seek help. This is such an easy thing to get addicted to. I have a friend who first became addicted at the age of 4. Nudie magazines were in his house and it took just a couple of looks to get him hooked. No addiction is easy to overcome. With help though all addictions are beatable. After ten years of giving into a pron addiction a friend of mine went to see a Christian counselor. It was this move that saved his marriage, ministry, and state of mind.
- Protect your man. If you are a female then protect the men in your life. Get the mail and throw away the Victoria Secret Catalog before he gets home. Oh and spill something gross in the trash so it ruins the magazine.
- Outsmart it. Read reviews of why movies are rated what they are rated. If it has nudity in it don't go see it. If a visually stimulating image pops up on the TV cover your eyes so that you won't see it. Don't believe the lie that you can handle it. Guys can't.
- If you are a parent of a boy talk to him about it and set up a means of accountability. Protect your son! I know it's awkward, but not as awkward as getting caught watching porn with your pants down by your ankles, by your parents.
I've know a friend who struggled with this addiction. It was an addiction as strong as cigarettes or alcohol or any other drug you care to name. Whenever he talked about it with others, he was made to feel like he was the only one with this problem. This drove him deeper into the problem. There was a time that looking at pornography actually took the place of real relationships. Those folks online never made fun of him or made him feel like a freak. They relieved his stress and were always ready for him. Deeper and deeper and deeper he fell under their lies. I struggled like heck to make progress, ..., errr, I mean he struggled like heck to make progress. He made slow and steady progress to recognize the triggers and to slowly learn how to take those triggers captive. Keep at it. You likely can't "fix" this addiction overnight. Take gains where you can. Don't beat yourself up for occasional relapses.
ReplyDeleteDaniel, thanks for sharing. You are the man!
ReplyDeleteFantastic blog. It's an easy & awful addiction. Wives can also pray for their husband against this addiction and help to protect them.
ReplyDeleteMost excellent post!! I believe this is a disproportionately HUGE problem in relation to how often it is addressed in the modern church! Christian men are not exempt yet, I am sure that many of them feel that there is nowhere to turn. As a woman, it is not an addiction that I can personally relate to but, I pray often for my own husband and son. There are opportunities everywhere even when one isn't seeking out an opportunity. Thanks for tackling a difficult topic!
ReplyDeleteThanks Missy! I appreciate the comment.
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